The Motives & Meanings of Your Affair

  • Who's It For?

    This course will help anyone who's had an affair answer these two questions: Why did I do this? So, what's going to be different now?

  • Content

    The course combines audio and written content, along with a collection of worksheets, to guide users through the process. It also includes insights from others who did this work.

  • FAQ

    How long do I have access? 100 days. What if I need more time? Just ask. Does my partner participate in the course? No, but they will certainly be part of the conversation you have at the end of it. Additional documents for your partner are also included.

Course Content

  • 1

    Course Introduction

  • 2

    Step 1: Know what to expect from this course.

  • 3

    Step 2: Explore the meaning behind your affair.

    • Step 2 Audio Lesson
    • Step 2 Worksheet
    • Step 2 Review
  • 4

    Step 3: Map your path to infidelity.

    • Step 3 Audio Lesson
    • Step 3 Worksheet
    • Step 3 Review
    • Step 3 Extra Resources
  • 5

    Step 4: Know your historical risks.

    • Step 4 Audio Lesson
    • Step 4 Worksheet
    • Step 4 Review
  • 6

    Step 5: Know your personal risks.

    • Step 5 Audio Lesson
    • Step 5 Worksheet
    • Step 5 Review
  • 7

    Step 6: Know your marital risks.

    • Step 6 Audio Lesson
    • Step 6 Worksheet
    • Step 6 Review
    • Step 6 Extra Resources
  • 8

    Step 7: Know your circumstantial risks.

    • Step 7 Audio Lesson
    • Step 7 Worksheet
    • Step 7 Review
  • 9

    Transition: Let's think about change.

    • Intro to Change
    • Audio 1: Your Motives for Change
    • Audio 1 Review
    • Audio 2: The Motive to DO
    • Audio 2 Review
    • Audio 3: The Motive to GET
    • Audio 3 Review
    • Audio 4: The Motive to BE
    • Audio 4 Review
    • Audio 5: Your Deep Desire
    • Audio 5 Review
    • Audio 6: Examples
    • Audio 7: Ping-Ponging Between Desires
    • Audio 7 Review
    • Audio 8: The Advantage of BEing
    • Audio 8 Review
    • Optional Video: "Charged"
  • 10

    Step 8: Make a plan for change.

    • Step 8 Intro
    • Step 8 Audio Lesson
    • Step 8 Worksheet
    • Step 8 Review
    • Step 8 Extra: Marriage Moves
  • 11

    Step 9: Decide your next steps.

    • Step 9 Audio Lesson
    • Step 9 Stop & Consider
    • Step 9 Worksheet
    • Step 9 Review
    • Step 9 Extra Resources
  • 12

    Step 10: Talk about it.

    • Step 10 Audio Lesson
    • Need Help?
    • Step 10 Worksheet
    • Step 10 Resources for Your Spouse
    • Step 10 Extra Resources
  • 13

    Now What?

    • Get Feedback
    • Personal Growth
    • Relationship Growth

Instructor

Tim Tedder

Tim Tedder

Tim Tedder, LMHC, NCC is a licensed counselor, author, and creator of AffairHealing.com. His passion and services are focused on helping individuals and couples find their way to healing, change, and renewal.