A Guide for Betrayed Partners

  • Who's It For?

    This course is specifically created for everyone who has been betrayed by infidelity and needs guidance toward healing.

  • Content

    Includes over 80 lessons, exercises, worksheets, extra resources, and twice-a-month online support groups. See the content below.

  • FAQ

    How long do I have access? 1 Year. What if I need more time? Just ask. Will I have access to new content? Yes. This course will continue to develop through 2020. You will have access to all new material without paying the increased price.

Course Content

  • 2

    Online Group Meetings

  • 3

    1. Your Options, Your Choice

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    2. The Other Woman (or Man)

    • Download | What Other's Say...
    • A Theft
    • 3 Guidelines, 6 Actions
    • AP Action 1: Ignore
    • AP Action 2: Investigate
    • AP Action 3: Contact
    • AP Action 4: Compare
    • AP Action 5: Reveal
    • AP Action 6: Retaliate
    • REVIEW #2
    • Chapt 2 Exercises
    • Worksheet 2
    • Chapt 2 Extra Resource
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    3. The Uncertain or Uncooperative Spouse

    • Download | What Other's Say...
    • Reacting To The Wayward Partner
    • Taking Control
    • How Far?
    • How To Do It
    • For How Long?
    • REVIEW #3
    • Chapt 3 Exercises
    • Worksheet 3
    • Chapt 3 Extra Resources
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    4. Building Boundaries

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    • What's a Relationship Boundary?
    • When Should A Relationship Boundary Be Established?
    • How Should Boundaries Be Maintained?
    • What's It Like To Live With Boundaries?
    • When Should Boundaries Be Removed?
    • When Are Boundaries Most Effective?
    • REVIEW #4
    • Chapt 4 Exercises
    • Worksheet 4
    • Chapt 4 Extra Resources
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    5. Sharing Your Pain

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    • They Probably Don't Get It
    • Step 1: Your Pain
    • Step 2: Your Partner's Limits
    • Step 3: Their Defenses
    • Step 4: The Anger Subsitute
    • Step 5: Effective Sharing
    • After All These Steps...
    • REVIEW #5
    • Chapt 5 Exercises
    • Worksheet 5
    • Chapt 5 Extra Resources
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    6. Who Else Should Know?

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    • Protecting Secrets
    • Therapists' Opinions
    • 4 Affair Phases
    • Should You Tell A Trusted Confidant?
    • Should You Tell Family Members?
    • Should You Tell Friends?
    • Should You Tell Your Children?
    • Should You Tell People At Your Partner's Job?
    • Should You Tell The Affair Partner's Spouse?
    • In Summary
    • REVIEW #6
    • Chapt 6 Exercises
    • Worksheet 6
    • Chapt 6 Extra Resources
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    7. Recognizing Truth-Shifting

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    • What's The Truth?
    • 1. The Actual Truth
    • 2. The Subjective Truth
    • 3. The Told Truth
    • 4. The Believed Truth
    • What Version of the Truth Should You Expect?
    • Why Do You Need To Know The Truth?
    • Why Is Your Partner Reluctant To Tell The Truth?
    • Craig's Story
    • REVIEW #7
    • Chapt 7 Exercises
    • Worksheet 7
    • Chapt 7 Extra Resources
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    8. Getting To The Truth

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    • How Much Truth Should You Know?
    • How Should You Uncover The Truth?
    • Investigating Your Partner
    • For How Long Should You Ask About The Affair?
    • REVIEW #8
    • Chapt 8 Exercises
    • Worksheet 8
    • Worksheet 9
    • Chapt 8 Extra Resources
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    9. Healing With or Without Your Partner

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    • The Possibility & Power of Change
    • The 3 Desires
    • The Desire to DO
    • The Desire To GET
    • The Desire To BE
    • Your Deep Desire
    • Examples: Desires In Action
    • Ping-Ponging Between Desires
    • The Advantage of BEing
    • Deepening Your Desire To BE
    • REVIEW #9
    • Chapt 9 Exercises
    • Worksheet 10
    • Chapt 9 Extra Resources
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    10. Forgive? Probably. Trust? Maybe.

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    • Considering Forgiveness
    • Substitute Forgiveness
    • Genuine Forgiveness
    • Forgiveness Doesn't Always Lead To Trust.
    • Trust Ingredient #1
    • Trust Ingredient #2
    • Trust Ingredient #3
    • REVIEW #10
    • Chapt 10 Exercises
    • Worksheet 11
    • Worksheet 12
    • Chapt 10 Extra Resources
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    11. Dealing with Trauma Triggers

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    • Call It What It Is
    • Strategy 1: Cages To Clouds
    • Strategy 2: Redirecting Thoughts
    • Lightstream Meditation
    • Strategy 3: Writing That Heals
    • Strategy 4: Your Body
    • Strategy 5: The Right Therapy
    • A Client's Story
    • REVIEW #11
    • Chapt 11 Exercises
    • Worksheet 13
    • Worksheet 14
    • Chapt 11 Extra Resources
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    12. Finding Support

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    • An Admitted Bias
    • What Kind Of Counseling Do You Need?
    • How Do You Find A Good Counselor?
    • What Questions Should You Ask?
    • What Should You Expect From Your Counselor?
    • Getting The Most Out Of Your First Session
    • REVIEW #12
    • Chapt 12 Exercises
    • Worksheet 15
    • Chapt 12 Extra Resources

Instructor

Tim Tedder

Tim Tedder

Tim Tedder, LMHC, NCC is a licensed counselor, author, and creator of AffairHealing.com. His passion and services are focused on helping individuals and couples find their way to healing, change, and renewal.